Sometimes things never feel like they’re going right. You can feel the anger rising. Stress provides an extra level of ouch to your shoulders. Your cheeks redden with embarrassment. And then something else seems to go wrong putting more on you. The worst part about it, is nothing is within your control.
What can do you?
I had all these feelings last night. During an event, everything I felt like could go wrong, did. I don’t want to get into details. I don’t want to place any blame. But needless to say, I had control over none of it. But at the end of the day, I was the one in control of things and everything was out of control.
In it moments like this, that I have to stop and take a breath. Of course, that does not make things suddenly fall into control. Even as you’re breathing, you can almost hear the gears turning towards your inevitable downfall. That isn’t obviously the case, but in those moments, it feels like the end of the world.
What I need to start remembering is right now, these moments after it. The event was a ton of fun and people went away not remember these ill-fated things happening. Some of the people were not even there for the negative impacted things. That goes a lot to show from the bar staff who know what they’re doing (that is me included) and also the people I work with to throw the event having quick thinking on their hands. Everything flowed perfectly.
I do not deal with stress well. It seems to overtake me waves. So, I have been working on different ways to take a step back and try to go with the flow. I try to be present and let it go. I have a special kind of letting these things go, because I see things I have no control of having a direct impact on how people see me. I take it personally when things don’t go smoothly because I want everyone to have a good time, I want everyone to remember only having a good time, and I want to be part of that memory. Instead, I create this cloud of negativity over myself because of these factors I cannot control.
As I said before, I need to remember the moments after. Everyone had a good time. I thanked everyone for their help, their support, and honestly the love of the event itself and the importance to the community. I want to keep things up, and I want to get better, but I can’t let these kind of thoughts and emotions ruin having a good time, which they kind of did last night. I was fun. The music was great. The people were amazing. The drinks were had by all, and I got to make them. In retrospect, no one will remember the flubs. I just need to learn to let them go, but as always this is easier said than done. I will keep working on it.
Do you feel the same way about mistakes or problems during your day? Do you take it personally? Let me know below in the comments how you feel or if you have any ways to help me personally evolve and change to deal with it? I appreciate it.