Meditation is something I have not yet started, but I am definitely on the path of mindfulness. The best realization that I’ve had coming to me so far, and from various sources is that setting your mind on the right path is the hardest and most important place to start.
We all have a lot of myths we’ve built about our lives. They range from not being attractive enough to never being able to save. You keep these narratives in your life and they tend to keep happening. As I said above, you have to change the story in your head and reflect it back out onto the world. Trust me, I know as much as anyone how hard this is.
I have dealt with insecurities both about my writing and about my body. Before now, most of my relationships were temporary and it’s taken years for me to foster myself into the person when needs and deserves the people around him. This began with bad relationships. I didn’t feel like i deserved that kind of toxicity in my life. I deserved better. I then needed to make myself believe it. That was hard. But I did and I’m better off for it.
The big how is what people normally want to hear. And it’s as easy as acceptance. You have to accept yourself and every part of you. You’re mean. You’re beautiful. You’re kind. You’re ugly. You’re everything this world has to offer. The good. The bad. And I’m accepting this you’ll be able to make your own destiny in the world around you.
This too took me a while. I have always labeled myself a hero, compassionate and kind. It took a close friend letting me know that you reflect the people you’re around. The negativity I held before towards people I felt wronged me needed to be broken down. I needed to know that I was toxic. I was mean. I was uncompassionate. It got easier to accept the bad knowing the good was just as important. Just because you had negative encounters, doesn’t mean it’s all going to be negative. It just means you needed it to evolve. It’s still hard to accept, and sometimes it feels impossible to move past it. You can do it. I believe in you.
The second thing after acceptance is letting go of the past. I’m slowly moving through this part myself. I used to hang on to everything. I had clothes from my childhood still sitting in my closet. I have stuffed animals I bought my ex. I had comic book panels up on my walls. All of these things are okay, but they have a time and a place. And for me, it’s the past.
The stories of my future are still being defined but through this blog, through my thoughts, and through the help of some amazing people I am materializing them into reality. It’s an amazing experience to watch the inner truth and peace you’ve only dreamed about to materialize in front of you. For me, it’s with my linked old and new friends, my novel, my great money management, and my future growing business. This year is going to be a great one for me, and it all starts with a few minutes of mindfulness daily.
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